Bind mount is just... well... a bind mount. I.e. it's not a new mount. It just "links"/"exposes"/"considers" a subdirectory as a new mount point. As such it cannot alter the mount parameters. That's why you're getting complaints:

# mount /mnt/1/lala /mnt/2 -o bind,ro
mount: warning: /mnt/2 seems to be mounted read-write.

But as you said a normal bind mount works:

# mount /mnt/1/lala /mnt/2 -o bind

And then a ro remount also works:

# mount /mnt/1/lala /mnt/2 -o bind,remount,ro 

However what happens is that you're changing the whole mount and not just this bind mount. If you take a look at /proc/mounts you'll see that both bind mount and the original mount change to read-only:

/dev/loop0 /mnt/1 ext2 ro,relatime,errors=continue,user_xattr,acl 0 0
/dev/loop0 /mnt/2 ext2 ro,relatime,errors=continue,user_xattr,acl 0 0

So what you're doing is like changing the initial mount to a read-only mount and then doing a bind mount which will of course be read-only.

UPDATE 2016-07-20:

The following are true for 4.5 kernels, but not true for 4.3 kernels (This is wrong. See update #2 below):

The kernel has two flags that control read-only:

• The MS_READONLY: Indicating whether the mount is read-only
• The MNT_READONLY: Indicating whether the "user" wants it read-only

On a 4.5 kernel, doing a mount -o bind,ro will actually do the trick. For example, this:

# mkdir /tmp/test
# mkdir /tmp/test/a /tmp/test/b
# mount -t tmpfs none /tmp/test/a
# mkdir /tmp/test/a/d
# mount -o bind,ro /tmp/test/a/d /tmp/test/b

will create a read-only bind mount of /tmp/test/a/d to /tmp/test/b, which will be visible in /proc/mounts as:

none /tmp/test/a tmpfs rw,relatime 0 0
none /tmp/test/b tmpfs ro,relatime 0 0

A more detailed view is visible in /proc/self/mountinfo, which takes into consideration the user view (namespace). The relevant lines will be these:

363 74 0:49 / /tmp/test/a rw,relatime shared:273 - tmpfs none rw
368 74 0:49 /d /tmp/test/b ro,relatime shared:273 - tmpfs none rw

Where on the second line, you can see that it says both ro (MNT_READONLY) and rw (!MS_READONLY).

The end result is this:

# echo a > /tmp/test/a/d/f
# echo a > /tmp/test/b/f
-su: /tmp/test/b/f: Read-only file system

UPDATE 2016-07-20 #2:

A bit more digging into this shows that the behavior in fact depends on the version of libmount which is part of util-linux. Support for this was added with this commit and was released with version 2.27:

commit 9ac77b8a78452eab0612523d27fee52159f5016a
Author: Karel Zak 
Date:   Mon Aug 17 11:54:26 2015 +0200

    libmount: add support for "bind,ro"

    Now it's necessary t use two mount(8) calls to create a read-only
    mount:

      mount /foo /bar -o bind
      mount /bar -o remount,ro,bind

    This patch allows to specify "bind,ro" and the remount is done
    automatically by libmount by additional mount(2) syscall. It's not
    atomic of course.

    Signed-off-by: Karel Zak 

which also provides the workaround. The behavior can be seen using strace on an older and a newer mount:

Old:

mount("/tmp/test/a/d", "/tmp/test/b", 0x222e240, MS_MGC_VAL|MS_RDONLY|MS_BIND, NULL) = 0 <0.000681>

New:

mount("/tmp/test/a/d", "/tmp/test/b", 0x1a8ee90, MS_MGC_VAL|MS_RDONLY|MS_BIND, NULL) = 0 <0.011492>
mount("none", "/tmp/test/b", NULL, MS_RDONLY|MS_REMOUNT|MS_BIND, NULL) = 0 <0.006281>

Conclusion:

To achieve the desired result one needs to run two commands (as @Thomas already said):

mount SRC DST -o bind
mount DST -o remount,ro,bind

Newer versions of mount (util-linux >=2.27) do this automatically when one runs

mount SRC DST -o bind,ro

bind is unreliable when defined in fstab on a system with systemd. Systemd parses the fstab and tries to work out what order to mount and bind things in. From my own experience it gets this wrong 100% of the time. Best option is to move all you binds out of fstab and make you own xxx.mount system files for systemd. That was you gain controo over the order etc.