Ubuntu – Nautilus: “Cannot load supported server method list. Please check your gvfs installation”

You could create ~/.ssh/config with an appropriate config entry for your host like so:

Protocol 2
Host yourhost
    User youruser
    Hostname your.host.address
    GSSAPIAuthentication no
    Port 1234

For more options, consult man ssh_config

From Wikibook OpenSSH

Another way to transfer files back and forth, or even use them remotely, is to use sshfs It is a file system client based on SFTP and utilizes the sftp-subsystem. It can make a directory on the remote server accessible as a directory on the local file system which can be accessed by any program just as if it were a local directory. The user must have read-write privileges for mount point to use sshfs.

So finally it is both the same way of communication. SSHFS uses SFTP. The difference is that sshfs is a file system driver which allows to mount a drive which allows access via SFTP. Nautilus however does not mount drives, it only shows them. You can add your Filesystem to /etc/fstab to have it mounted at boot time, however I do not suggest that as the ssh connection might not be available. Easier would be to setup a bash script which can be ran as startup application.

The behaviour described in #2 is only logical: as you have connected via SFTP only, the file you drag into thunderbird does not exist in your file system, but as a remote path.

Edit because of the comment:

Maybe I explained it not good enough. Here an example: If your remote ressource is on server fooserver and the root directory is foodir, the file is in foosubdir/foofile, then the ressource path is sftp://fooserver/foodir/foosubdir/foofile. WHen you use Nautilus SFTP, this is still the only path for you to access this file, it is remote. If you use sshfs instead, the contents of foodir become available from within your file system - sshfs is a file system driver. Then it is as if the file were stored on your harddisk. The contents of the ressource sftp://fooserver/foodir are logically mapped into your mount directory ~/.gvfs . Then thunderbird can access this file from within your local file system context as ~/.gvfs/foosubdir/foofile . Thunderbird does not even notice that it is a remote file, the sshfs file system driver integrated into the klinux kernel does abstract that for you.