Linux – scp certain files only

I am trying to copy changed files to godaddy via ssh. Godaddy is terrible and so they of course do not allow rsync. I can use scp, but I really only want to copy changed files. I don't think this is possible, so I was wondering if perhaps I could scp only all php files.

There are a lot of sub directories, though, so I need to use the -r option.

Is there a way I can use scp to copy all files with extension php, recursively? like this:

scp -r -name "*php" /local/html/ user@server:/home/html/
(does not work)

DESIRED RESULT

//on local machine
$ find ./source

source/1.php
source/2.php
source/sub
source/sub/3.php
source/sub/4.php
source/sub/DONT-copy.txt
source/sub/DONT-copy.png
source/sub/sub2
source/sub/sub2/5.php
source/sub/sub2/6.php

//command to copy the files
$ [scp command here]

//on remote server
$ find ./destination

destination/1.php
destination/2.php
destination/sub
destination/sub/3.php
destination/sub/4.php
destination/sub/sub2
destination/sub/sub2/5.php
destination/sub/sub2/6.php

THIS DOES NOT WORK

//on local machine
$ find ./source

source/1.php
source/2.php
source/sub
source/sub/3.php
source/sub/4.php
source/sub/DONT-copy.txt
source/sub/DONT-copy.png
source/sub/sub2
source/sub/sub2/5.php
source/sub/sub2/6.php

//command to copy the files
$ cd source; scp -r *.php user@remote:/destination 

//on remote server
$ find ./destination

destination/1.php
destination/2.php

Perhaps we could try and use find, as well, but I'm pretty sure this will not work as is:

find ./source -name "*.php" -exec scp {} user@remote:{} \;

That won't work because I don't think you can use multiple {} operators in find.

Also, it might be tricky to get the paths to line up on the remote server, for example if find was returning /users/johndoe/documents/source/1.php and you wanted it to end up at /home/jane/www/destination/1.php on the remote server.