The background

Ok, this is a toughie. I'm a Firefox user, and I don't like Flash ads. They slow down my netbook, they slow down my Macbook, they sometimes play sound or obscure part of the page, all of which means as soon as I see a Flash ad I associate that advertiser with burning rage more than with good products.

The problem

That said, I don't see how the Web can exist without advertisement. I'm also not convinced that ABP's "acceptable advertising" functionality will actually encourage sites to change their advertising to serve static ads. For every technorati with an adblocker, there's someone who likes shooting animated, cartoon ducks in a sidebar ad. So rather than trying to politically force the advertisers to change their practices, I'd like to find a client-side way to opt out of just Flash ads—without opting out of static ads or even animated GIFs (even a nice, smooth animated GIF is better than jerky, resource-consuming Flash).

Possible solutions

Turns out that if I disable Flash in about:addons, pretty much all advertisers actually detect the absence of Flash and serve me a static ad instead. This is fantastic: I can browse the Internet in peace and still support the sites I visit with ad views. It actually makes me more likely to read the ad and feel positively about it. Problem is, I haven't found a way to disable Flash by default and enable it for whitelisted sites (or at least, not on OS X and Arch Linux. Embarrassingly, IE actually has a built-in way to whitelist plugins).

There are plenty of addons and userscripts that, rather than disabling Flash outright, simply replace Flash content with nifty logos or "click to play" buttons. But that's not what I want, and to be honest, scattering the same logo everywhere there's flash content (i.e. everywhere) is kind of ugly. And a button on the toolbar to toggle Flash quickly isn't quite right either, because there's no whitelist. I'd like to be able to browse Wired with static ads, then open Youtube without having to click that button first (and then inevitably forget about it as soon as I browse somewhere else).

Anyone got a solution? Or ideas about userscript ways to make this happen? I can't be the only person who finds those little replacement icons even more jarring than the Flash ads themselves.