Sql-server – SQLCMDMODE from SSMS. Can I set -b mode when using :r to include files

SQL-CMD variables are evaluated before the batch runs. So you cannot assign a t-sql variable value to a CMD-variable.

As has been said, there isn't a way.

However, one thing we do is to include a quick check in our script header, to determine whether SQLCMD mode is on (and terminate the script if not):

:setvar DatabaseName "MyDatabase"
GO
IF ('$(DatabaseName)' = '$' + '(DatabaseName)')
    RAISERROR ('This script must be run in SQLCMD mode. Disconnecting.', 20, 1) WITH LOG
GO
-- The below is only run if SQLCMD is on, or the user lacks permission to raise fatal errors
IF @@ERROR != 0
    SET NOEXEC ON
GO

PRINT 'You will only see this when SQLCMD mode is on'
-- Rest of script goes here

GO
SET NOEXEC OFF
GO

There is a reason Severity 20 is used, it tends to kill the connection immediately, preventing any more script code from running, even if there are GO batch terminators later in the script.

Severities 20-24:

Indicate system problems and are fatal errors, which means that the Database Engine task that is executing a statement or batch is no longer running. The task records information about what occurred and then terminates. In most cases, the application connection to the instance of the Database Engine may also terminate. If this happens, depending on the problem, the application might not be able to reconnect.

Error messages in this range can affect all of the processes accessing data in the same database and may indicate that a database or object is damaged. Error messages with a severity level from 19 through 24 are written to the error log.