MacOS – Where does docker desktop “start on login” option get stored and how to stop Docker from doing this outside of docker desktop

Applications and Menu Bar items

Most of these can be easily configured in:
System Preferences → Users&Groups → Login Items

LaunchAgents and LaunchDaemons

Some applications are cannot be configured in the System Preferences (e.g. Sophos AV Scanner, HandsOff Firewall,...) It's best to configure them in their own application to assure that everything runs as designed and intended.

You can look for related LaunchAgents and LaunchDaemons in:

~/Library/LaunchAgents               ~/Library/LaunchDaemons
/Library/LaunchAgents                /Library/LaunchDaemons
/System/Library/LaunchAgents         /System/Library/LaunchDaemons

Startup Items

After I installed the multi-boot utility rEFIt, it copied a file rEFItBlesser which is run at startup. Items that run at startup can be found in the following locations:

~/Library/Startup Items
/Library/Startup Items

ARD into your "work account" and then do the following on the remote computer to open a Screen Sharing window to your "personal account" on the same remote computer.

Create an SSH tunnel. It works for me using 10.9.

Enable Remote Login (SSH) in System Preferences > Sharing, and in Terminal run:

ssh -NL 5901:localhost:5900 localhost

Finally, use Screen Sharing to connect to localhost:5901 (instead of the default port 5900). Instead of port 5901 you can use a much higher port that isn't in use by anything else.

The Screen Sharing application is located here: /System/Library/CoreServices/Screen Sharing.app