IPhone – iMessages sending to old phone

It sounds like you simply have iMessage enabled on your Mac (which doesn't have anything to do with plugging your phone in, since your messages are synced through iCloud).

Anyway, just open up Messages (iChat), go to Preferences > Accounts, select your iMessage account in the list on the left and then unchecked the "enable this account" checkbox.

Your brother's Apple ID probably still has his phone number associated with it for iMessage. The smoothest way to deal with this is to have him disassociate his phone number from his Apple ID.

Apple has a self-service web site that explains how to accomplish this:

• https://selfsolve.apple.com/deregister-imessage

If that doesn't work, this older KB article has a helpful section "Unlink a phone number".

If he has other Apple devices (Mac or iPad) that are using his Apple ID, your iMessages may be being delivered there. If none of those devices are available when you send him an iMessage, your phone will eventually offer you the opportunity to resend the message as an SMS or MMS.

Unfortunately you can't disable iMessage on a per-contact basis.