IOS – Why is the 14 yr old listed as adult with the name on our account family sharing

I've had the purchases tab take 30 seconds to 30 minutes to render in the past. The stores are extremely busy and I'm seeing higher error rates than normal for updates, downloads and such.

I would say, give it 24 hours after you set up the family sharing for things to get sorted out before contacting Apple.

You should also get an email notification from Apple when each person you invited accepts the sharing of apps portion of the plan. They have to opt in to share so everyone should get emails when people join and leave the party, so to speak.

If you want to reach out to Apple - use the iTunes Store Support team as they handle accounts, purchases, billing and such.

• https://www.apple.com/support/itunes/

I solved this by changing values under setting/messages/send receive. For the iPhone enter the phone number then mark it with a check mark. For the iPad enter your Apple ID. My initial confusion stemmed from thinking that the Apple ID had to be used for both. It may have been that way long ago. I am not sure. Good luck.

5/14/2016 Hi, your latest post says your husband has his phone number checked on his iPad. I have my Apple ID checked on my iPad. Also, I recommend deleting the old text messages as they might be giving false impressions. The original programmers are probably shocked that their strategy is being tested by families that have o many Apple devices!