I'm using iOS 10 on an iPhone 6, with the latest Remote app (updated today). I want to use it to control iTunes on my MacBook Pro, running OS 10.11.6. Both devices are on the same wi-fi network and have Bluetooth enabled.
In the iOS Remote app, I click "Add a Device". It tells me to go to iTunes and click the Remote button in the top left of the window. But there's no such button! Where do I find it?
Best Answer
OK, I finally figured this out.
First I opened Remote and clicked "Add A Device".
Then in iTunes, I clicked the phone icon below the volume slider. This became a drop-down menu, and one of the items was a Remote icon. (This didn't work every time; I first had to disconnect and re-connect my phone to the wi-fi network.)
Finally, I was able to enter the code in iTunes, and it paired the devices.
I didn't need Home Sharing turned on.